May is masturbation awareness month!
May is International Masturbation Month… Seriously!
When I first heard of May tagged as Masturbation Month, I did what many people I know would do. I giggled, shook my head and brushed it off as some click-bate article headline to grab attention.
And the headline did just that. Curiosity took over and I couldn’t resist taking the bait… Though I was quite surprised by what I discovered…
International Masturbation Month officially began in 1995 when President Bill Clinton unjustly fired U.S. Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders for publically speaking her beliefs on self-sexual pleasure.
It was after a speech at the United Nations World AIDS Day in 1994, an audience member asked Elders about masturbation’s potential for discouraging early sexual activity. She answered, “I think it is something that is part of human sexuality and a part of something that perhaps should be taught. But we’ve not even taught our children the very basics. And I feel that we have tried ignorance for a very long time and it’s time we try education.”
And that was the end of Joycelyn Elders’ career as the Surgeon General!
Upon hearing this news, many people were outraged Elders’ dismissal.
San Francisco based sex toy company, Good Vibrations, realized how many people lacked support and advice to help them enjoy the simple, basic act of self-pleasure and decided to create a masturbation awareness month.
Here’s what Good Vibrations has to say in Elders’ honor:
“We started National Masturbation Month — now International Masturbation Month with people celebrating across the globe! — To raise awareness and to highlight the importance of masturbation for nearly everyone: it’s safe, it’s healthy, it’s free, it’s pleasurable and it helps people get to know their bodies and their sexual responses.
Of all the kinds of sex people can have, masturbation is the most universal and important, yet few people talk about it freely — worse, many people still feel it is “second best” or problematic in some way. Masturbation Month lets us emphasize how great it is: it’s natural, common and fun!”
Masturbation has a long history of stigma, shame and misconceptions and from a very young age, society conditions children to believe self-pleasuring is sinful. The Catholic Church has played a huge part in convincing Christians that self-pleasure is sinful and a ‘forbidden fruit.’ And those who cannot resist will be burned in hell.
Attempting to reverse a belief system that runs deep through centuries of our ancestral bloodlines won’t be an easy task – And awareness is the first step to take.
We’re conditioned from a young age that self-pleasure is sinful
Given the negative messages children often receive about touching themselves while growing up; it’s understandable they may retain elements of shame which can affect their sexuality in adulthood and how they respond to relationships. If nothing is done to break the pattern, it goes on being taught to our children, our children’s children and the cycle of shame continues.
I, myself, realized how deep this conditioning ran through me when I thought of the reactions people might have about my writing an article outlining a healthy self-pleasuring practice… and that very reaction within is what made me realize how important it is to shine light, consciousness and awareness on the subject and eliminate the shame.
International Masturbation Month is an absolutely brilliant way to do this.
Health benefits of sacred self pleasure
- The ultimate safe sex
- Offers relief for pre-menstrual symptoms
- Assists in stress reduction – orgasms trigger dopamine and serotonin natural mood lifters
- Enhances endorphin release
- Increases pelvic floor strength
- Every person is his or her own best lover
- Alleviates chronic back pain
- Increases resistance to yeast infections
- Increases sexual awareness
- Expands pleasure capacity
- Immensely invigorating, rejuvenating and fun!
Women of India speak about masturbation
The following is a very sweet video filmed in India where Kama Sutra originated. It shows different Indian women expressing their ideas on self-pleasure. The concept behind this video is to persuade the mass to change their vision on such issues so people don’t have to feel ashamed.
How does silence help end the shame?
If you support this holiday and find yourself feeling ashamed to do or say anything publicly, check in with yourself on what you are gaining by staying silent. How does silence help end the shame? And on the flip side of that… by staying silent, how does that contribute to the embarrassment people feel? How can you help others feel safe to talk about self-pleasure openly?
Let’s be the change we want to see.
And if you’re wanting to jump on the pleasure boat this May, might I recommend setting some pleasurable goals. Engage in conversation and talk to people about perceptions and values. Share ideas on making conscious changes in reactions. Many people go on a 30-day masturbation marathon to offer support of this holiday.
Could you imagine if the entire world did this for the month of May? If everyone committed to a month of self-pleasure? How it could help everyone relax, lift spirits, connect with one’s self? And what it could actually do for world peace?
Think about it.
And I invite you to join me in this self-pleasure movement this May. Take a stand against the embarrassment. Just say “Yessssss!”
Carved Rose Quartz Yoni Egg
If you’re looking to add a little extra sensation in your yoni egg practice, then Carved Yoni Eggs are a must – try! The groves gently rub the G-spot while they turn inside you. To use during self pleasure try wrapping the string around your fingers to grip and stimulate. These eggs are a perfect compliment to a classic Jade Egg.
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All my love,
This article was originally posted in elephant journal.